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4 Secrets to Getting Along With Your Boss
Jul 28

4 Secrets To Getting Along With Your Boss

By Kristen Duever | Beat Work Related Stress Now

Kristen Duever

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by Kristen Duever, Career Researcher and Writer

Learn the 4 Secrets to Getting Along With Any Boss!

What to do when your manager's personality conflicts with yours?

Getting along with your manager is one of the keys to job satisfaction, career advancement and general feelings of well-being. But what if your boss has a completely different personality and you just don’t click?

There may be more to it.

Maybe you feel frustrated because it seems like your boss is always undermining your decisions. It feels like nothing you do is good enough.

When Sunday evening rolls around, do you get a feeling of dread in the pit of your stomach when you think about going back to work?

Sometimes minor annoyances can fester and lead to major issues that can derail your career. It’s important to take control, but what do you do?
This is your manager we’re talking about – one wrong move and you could be fired.

The good news is, you can stop the cycle and start getting along with your boss.

Now just to be clear, there are some bosses who are truly abusive – and we are not talking about them here. Rather, we are talking about those bosses that micromanage or who don’t give you the attention you need. Or the bosses whose communication styles differ from yours.

Remember that your boss is human too. They are likely dealing with stressors of their own and there are things you can do to improve the situation for both of you!

Four secrets to having a better relationship with your boss:

1. Recognize how your manager’s personality differs from yours.

If you find yourself regularly annoyed with your boss, you can quickly develop feelings of stress.

The first step to dealing with this stress is to recognize its source. Ask yourself why you are not getting along with your boss? It may help to look around the organization and see which employees your manager does get along with.

Chances are, they get along with employees who are more similar to them. How do the interactions of that employee differ from yours?  Observe and learn from others.  There's often good reasons for what you see working around you.

2. Learn to communicate in your manager’s personality style.

Take some time to consider your own personality style and how you approach problems. Then try to think objectively about how your style differs from that of your manager.

Sitting down with a qualified coach can help you gain deeper understanding.

Learn to be flexible in how you communicate. For example, if your boss is the analytical type, use words like principles, analysis and rationale. If your boss is more emotional in nature, use words such as harmony, sensitivity and intensity.

Adapting your communication style to your manager doesn’t mean changing who are – it simply means devising a strategy for effective communication or being sensitive to the preferences of your manager.

3. Recognize your boss’s management style – and adapt.

Some managers like to have a high degree of control. They want to know every detail of what is happening in a particular project. If you like to be independent, this can leave you feeling like your boss doesn’t trust you. Deal with this situation by providing them with regular updates and it will help to ward off micromanaging.

On the other hand, if you are more of a collaborative worker and your boss has a hands-off approach, you may feel like your manager isn’t interested or that your work doesn’t matter. If this is the case, make a list of the items you’d like to get feedback on and schedule a meeting with your manager rather than interrupting when they might be in the middle of something else.

Adapting to your manager’s style will help make life at work easier for both of you. In other words, “manage up”. Try to understand your manager and then help them be successful. This will help you to be successful too.

4. Remember that it’s not forever!

Finally remember that in today’s everchanging workplace, the manager you have today may not be the manager you have next year or even next week.

So before you walk away from what is really a good job or allow yourself to become overwhelmed, take a step back and try to get to the heart of the issue.

If you do this, chances are you will be able to get along with any manager – even if their personality differs from yours.

Using any of these strategies will require you to look within. Having a difficult manager is rarely fun, but it is in difficult situations that we have the opportunity to learn and grow. Begin to see the challenge as a gift and it may open up new doors for you in your career.

Better yet, sit down with a qualified career coach who can help you through these steps in an objective and caring way and delve even deeper into the heart of the issue.

Who knows? Someday you might just see your relationship with your current manager as one of the most important in your career!

Are You Sabotaging Your Career?
Jan 12

Are You Sabotaging Your Career?

By Shirin Khamisa | Beat Work Related Stress Now

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Written by Shirin Khamisa, Founder, Careers by Design

Are you sabotaging your own career but don't know it?

Giving in to stress is like sabotaging yourself. Learn how to spot the signs and turn your situation around.

Here's A Common Question We Get:

I’m really stressed about my career problem. If I can solve the problem then I won’t be stressed anymore. Isn’t it better to buckle down and focus on solving the problem rather than wasting time dealing with the stressful feelings?

And here's our answer:

When you are facing a challenge that is triggering a stress response, like trying to decide if you should quit your job or change your career, it can be tempting to put everything you’ve got into solving the immediate problem. The catch is that ignoring stress has a negative impact on your current performance and wellbeing.

Operating from a stressful state sets you up to be inefficient.

We live in times where stress, tension and worry are the norm.

It's easy to forget that stressful feelings are a call to action, letting us know that something is wrong and needs to change.

Take the example of Andrew who is feeling restless and unsatisfied at work. Everyone says he should be grateful to have such a good job in a tough economy. But Andrew feels conflicted. He is torn between the job that he’s supposed to be grateful for and the feeling that he is meant to do something else. He ignores his stressful feelings and tries to figure out what he should do. He finds himself going over the same scenario in his mind over and over again.

It’s not his fault.

Stress has triggered Andrew’s brain to go into survival mode. This limits his ability to see the situation clearly and his access to his creative problem solving abilities. Stress makes his thinking muddled. He feels so misunderstood that he doesn’t reach out to anyone for help.

More than a year goes by.

Over time the constant demands at work and Andrew’s reluctance to address his stressful situation and feelings leads to burn-out and depletion.

When stressful feelings persist, they have a detrimental impact on our wellbeing and career success. But stress is tricky, and often we are not aware of it or get caught up in the energy it creates making us feel like we don’t have the time or inner resources to do something about it. Understanding your stressors and how you respond to them allows you to develop coping strategies that work for you, giving you a powerful edge in your job search or career change.

Anita is also thinking about changing her career.

Unlike Andrew, she notices her reaction to stress (a feeling of overwhelm) and decides to do something about it, right in the moment.

She takes a few deep breaths and connects to her heart. She feels better and in that place of clarity, she remembers that her colleague Mark made a big career change before joining her team. She asks Mark for his help and they take a short walk around the block to brainstorm.

Anita returns to her desk with a new perspective and feels energized by the short exercise break. Breathing, walking and connecting with a colleague all bring down her stress and help her access her own creative problem solving abilities. Within six months, Anita has transferred into another department and is doing work she enjoys.

Doing something about the stress that you are feeling right in the moment will make you more productive- saving you time and energy. Clearer thinking, better problem solving and the ability to make better decisions, are a few of the rewards of effectively dealing with stressors.

The many demands we face make stress unavoidable. Understanding your own stressors and developing coping strategies help you turn stressful situations into manageable challenges. Challenges that were once stressful can become tolerable or even energizing and fun. If you don’t cultivate resilience in yourself, these same demands can lead to strain and burnout.

When you take the time to address your stress, you will be amazed at how much more successful you can be in your life and career! 

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Strengths are like perfume!
Mar 24

Strengths Are Like Perfume

By Shirin Khamisa | Beat Work Related Stress Now

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Written by Shirin Khamisa, Founder, Careers by Design

How strengths are like perfume...

Facing a challenge? Create an upward spiral of positivity and build your strengths.

When we are struggling or when climbing to new heights, it is easy to forget where we are strong.

Focusing on strengths can create an upward spiral of positive feelings that equips us to face challenges with more ease.

Unfortunately, it doesn’t happen naturally.

In times of challenge, the brain is drawn to the unfinished business of the problem that we are facing.  We need to make a special effort to focus on strengths.

I’ll let you in on a little trick I use. 

Whenever I use perfume, I like to think about my strengths.

Strengths are like perfume …Some are bold and others subtle.

Each one of us is a unique blend.

Some are for a special night out and others are for everyday.

Delicious when you first use them.

But after awhile you don’t notice them.

Even if you don’t notice, others appreciate their loveliness.

They lift your spirits. They make you feel so good!

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Power of the heart
Feb 14

The Best Career Advice Ever – Unleashing The Hidden Power Of Your Heart

By Shirin Khamisa | Beat Work Related Stress Now

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Written by Shirin Khamisa, Founder, Careers by Design

The best career advice ever - how to unleash the hidden power of your heart.

Let’s face it. It’s easy to discount the power of the heart.  

In fact, many “heart myths” abound and people who follow their hearts are often thought of as impractical and whimsical.

Nothing could be further from the truth!

The heart is a powerful and often untapped force that we all have access to. Problems arise and get bigger because most of us are disconnected from it’s power.

When you connect to your heart, you deepen your relationship with yourself and tap into your ability to deal with challenging situations.

Here are 4 lasting & powerful benefits of connecting to your heart:

1. Calm Those Nerves

The power of the heart helps release the butterflies and create a feeling of calm. This can change the outcome of an interview or a stressful conversation with your manager.

2. See Challenges Clearly

The power of the heart creates a shift in perception that gives you a new way of seeing things when analysis has failed you. This is helpful when you are in a tight spot at work or trying to make sense of your options during a career change.

3. Make Better Decisions

The power of the heart transforms fear and doubt. Then you’ll make decisions from a balanced state and create better results than taking action out of fear or stress.

4. Access Joy on Demand

The heart gives you access to joy and other heartfelt emotions like Love, Peace, Gratitude and much more. These emotions will fuel your success and make it easier to reach your goals.

Just like any other relationship, it takes time and patience to connect deeply with your heart. However, the rewards are greater than you can imagine.

Start now with this simple step:

Put your hand on your heart and breathe as you focus your attention there. Feel gratitude for all your heart does for you and resolve to connect often.

At Careers by Design, we combine the scientifically proven tools of HeartMath® with Career Counselling – helping you to RELIABLY connect to your heart’s power and solve your career problem faster.

Here’s how people describe the benefits of heart connection using HeartMath®:

“In a few short sessions, HeartMath® training has allowed me to find peace, and even sometimes a smile, in the midst of a crazy day of struggles and stress. I’ve been able to look forward and see looming decisions with more clarity, and even more happiness. What wonderful coaching!”

~ Dr. Abe Morgentaller, Men’s Heatlh Boston, Associate Clinical Professor of Surgery, Harvard Medical School

"The HeartMath® tools I learned were easy to implement and allowed me to be much calmer and a lot less reactive during the normally stressful career transition period of time. I find them very valuable and I continue to use them every day to lower stress and anxiety."

~ Rob V. Television Producer, Careers by Design Alumni

"When I decided to find a career coach, my objective was to get some career guidance. I never really expected the positive impact that our sessions would have on both my personal and career life. It’s amazing to have something exceed your expectations!"

~Andree L -Senior Management Professional, Careers by Design Alumni

Need help to connect with your heart &
advance your career?

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the Turning Point career coaching session.

How to Beat Stress at Work
Feb 25

How To Beat Stress: 2 Powerful Strategies To Take Back Control Of Your Time

By Shirin Khamisa | Beat Work Related Stress Now

BEAT WORK RELATED STRESS NOW

Written by Shirin Khamisa, Founder, Careers by Design

How To Beat Stress: 2 Powerful Strategies To Take Back Control Of Your Time

If you think you don’t have enough time to do it all, you are absolutely right.

”Time Stress” is a very common experience in our 24/7 world. To make matters worse, being stressed about time results in being unable to prioritize and make good decisions about what is important.

Is your to-do list really long and overwhelming? Are you feeling unsatisfied and frustrated because you don’t have the time and energy to focus on things that are important to you? Perhaps you would like to make a career change or focus on high impact activities that will advance your professional life.

Here are two life changing strategies that will make a big difference in how you feel about time.

Powerful Strategy #1: Make peace with the reality that you only have 168 hours every week.

I make myself miserable when I am at war with the reality of how much time I have each day.I learned that I can create a feeling of ease and joy in my life by waving the white flag and calling a truce with time.Accepting that time is limited and that I can’t do it all gave me permission to take some of the pressure off myself. If you have a limitless wish list, embracing the limits that time imposes can help you to create a life filled with purpose and meaning.

”Limitations are merely opportunities to grow” - Louise Hay

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This limitation in the number of hours we have is an opportunity to grow: to get clear about what is really important; to develop the ability to turn down good for great; to learn how to say no to people and opportunities that don’t serve our larger purpose.

Powerful Strategy #2: Get clear about your purpose.

Having a clear purpose in life is a powerful antidote to time stress.

Committing to what is important makes it easier to decide what gets my time and attention.

One part of my purpose is connection – with my Creator, with my heart and with people who are important to me. Knowing this has helped me to make choices both at work and in life.

It is a priority for me to meditate daily and to spend time with loved ones. I am happiest at work when I am coaching and working on creative projects that make a difference. At the end of the day, it is incredibly satisfying to have taken action that is aligned with my purpose and my long-term goals.

I often see clients who have had successful careers in the past but currently feel unfulfilled and stretched in too many directions. They have already achieved the goals that gave their lives purpose and no longer have something to work towards.

It is important to re-examine our lives periodically and get clear about our current purpose. When you take the time to consciously decide what’s next at work and in life, you give yourself permission to focus on what makes you come alive. This makes it easier to say no to things that don’t add satisfaction and joy.

Taking the time to consider the big picture and set long and short term goals will help you to choose what gets your precious time and attention.

It gives you a clear direction and helps you to see your priorities clearly.

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Same New Year Career Resolutions Again?
Jan 13

Are Your New Year’s Career Resolutions The Same As Last Year?

By Shirin Khamisa | Beat Work Related Stress Now

Learn One Powerful Way To Get The Confidence You Need To Succeed in Your Career, This Time.

If you’re like me, you’ve noticed that setting new year’s resolutions is filled with emotion.

We are focused on what is most important to us, and what we hope will make us happy.

If we are feeling confident in ourselves, it is energizing and exciting to think about the goals that we are setting and the happiness it will bring when we achieve them.

If we have made many attempts or not made much progress, it is also natural and quite common to feel discouragement and doubt our abilities, not to mention tempting to listen to the fearful part of us that cries: what’s the use of trying this %#@#!

We have all felt the pain of unfulfilled expectations and impossibly long to-do lists.

Perhaps there are some things that you really wanted to accomplish last year that did not come to pass.

It is natural to feel some disappointment.

Many goals take longer than we expect: building a business, making a career change and becoming an established professional require persistence, grit and a willingness to navigate the unknown.

In my first few years as a business owner, there were many times that I wanted to quit and get a job, where someone else would make the important decisions – I didn’t expect entrepreneurship to require so much of me. There are still times when I flirt with the idea of getting a job. But the truth is that this is my calling.

[box]Although the challenges are trying at times, they have proved to be necessary to learn valuable lessons about work and life.[/box]

[box]There is also a long lead time with some goals; the change process involves a period of time where we are just thinking about change before we are able to take decisive action.

I often hear from my clients that they have been thinking about making a career change for years before they are able to start taking concrete steps. [/box]

Sometimes we make sacrifices to pay the bills or honour other commitments and our dreams are delayed. Other times, factors arise that are not in our control (such as: an illness or a life event that requires our immediate attention).

The key is to recognize that your life is saying “not yet” and that doesn’t mean that it will never happen for you.

When our dreams are delayed, we may feel frustration, disappointment or doubt ourselves and our abilities. These emotions run in the background of our lives, draining our energy and leaving us tired, stressed and maybe even cranky. They impact our ability to move forward. These emotions are like a program that is installed on your computer that is taking up a lot of memory. When you are trying to do other tasks, this program slows everything down.

We get so use to feeling this way that we don’t recognize that it is happening-it’s a blindspot-and stress builds up over time, damaging our confidence.

Fortunately there is something we can do about it.

It is possible to shut down the program that runs in the background and regain energy.

Experiencing positive states like ease, calm, appreciation and awe puts energy into our systems and propels us forward towards our goals while feeling great.

Making a career change, finding a job or enjoying work more are outcomes that are achieved faster and with greater ease.

[box type=”note”]You can learn to change the way you are feeling and go from stress to SUCCESS.

We would love to show you how.

This post is by Shirin Khamisa, career and life coach at Careers By Design.

Hope is a Choice
Oct 14

Hope is a Choice

By Lee Weisser | Beat Work Related Stress Now

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Written by Lee Weisser, Career & Life Coach

Hope is a choice – what does that mean?

When your body feels so heavy you can’t seem to take a step, hope hangs out there on a limb that is just beyond your reach.

When you feel so discouraged that you believe all doors are closed to you, hope is like a far-away planet that you can barely glimpse.

So how can hope be a choice?

Several years ago I faced a huge transition that included marital separation, a move across the country, and looking for work that would meet expenses for me and my daughter.

I had wonderful support from family and friends, but still felt unsure of how my life would ever come together again.

There seemed to be just too many losses to overcome.Just when I was at the point of desperation, I received a call offering me a 6-month contract job for which I had applied. I took it, and it turned into a four-year gig with an organization where the people were both fun and compassionate.

What did I learn?It’s okay to cry until you think you will break, it’s okay to mourn your losses, it’s okay to struggle over and over again, and finally, it’s okay to trust – trust in yourself and in the world around you.

I’m a great planner, but when all hell broke loose in my personal life, the plans met their match.

I had to let go of the former dream, and start taking actions one step at a time towards a new dream.

The more open you are to hope, the more likely it is to help you find your way.

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Hope - A Short Poem for you
Sep 13

Hope – A Short Poem for You

By Shirin Khamisa | Beat Work Related Stress Now

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Written by Shirin Khamisa, Founder, Careers by Design

Hope - a short poem.

Hope is there for you…

when you are really stretching to move past what is comfortable & you want to throw in the towel

when you have been working for years and haven’t received the reward

when you don’t know how

when you haven’t figured it out and it looks like everyone else has crossed the finish line

when your best friend says you’re expecting too much & your lover tells you to get real

when you have applied to 200 jobs & been to a million networking events without a single offer

Hope is there for you….

Hope reminds you that your past performance does not predict your future success

Hope expands your vision & lets you see solutions & opportunities

Hope is bigger than despair

Hope fuels you to fight the good fight

Hope enables you to create and make the intangible real

Hope gives you the courage to dream and create a brighter future

Hope Happens….

Hope Happens when you rally your supporters around you

Hope Happens when you focus on all the reasons why you can succeed

Hope Happens when you take action despite the doubt

Hope Happens when you focus on your strengths

Hope Happens when you believe in your dreams

Hope Happens when you have faith

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Joy Riding - Careers by Design
Sep 07

Joy Riding

By Lee Weisser | Beat Work Related Stress Now

BEAT WORK RELATED STRESS NOW

Written by Lee Weisser, Career & Life Coach

Joy Riding...

Have you ever been told to lighten up?

I know I have. I have a tendency to get way too serious about myself. We need to have joy in life.

It’s good to take our dreams and goals seriously—but it’s not good to take ourselves seriously.

When we take ourselves seriously we worry unnecessarily about our own survival. Worry makes us anxious. And anxiety drains our energy.

We lose our creative spark. We feel weighted down. We feel stuck. Every task feels overwhelming.

When you’re feeling like this, wouldn’t it be great to get back a feeling of lightness, openness and positive energy?

One technique I recommend is remembering the feelings you had as a child doing your favourite activities.

Picture yourself doing something that was pure fun.

What childhood activity made you feel great?

Close your eyes and try to recreate those positive feelings in your mind and heart. Who are you with? What are the sights and sounds you remember? What feelings rise to the surface?

Now, savour those feelings. Allow them to linger. Aahhh… feel your body, mind and heart open up to possibility. Be like a kid again.

You can use this technique whenever you’re feeling too serious.

(One of my good memories is riding my bike to the corner store for a Popsicle on carefree summer days. I loved the feelings of independence and mastery.)

So whatever challenge you’re facing today, allow yourself to feel like a kid at play. It will lift your spirits and give you courage for the road ahead.

I’m going out to ride my bike and feel the wind against my face. Hallelujah!

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