… Such concerns are natural, says Shirin Khamisa, a career coach at Careers by Design. “Given the economic cycle that we’re in right now, decisions like this get even more emotionally charged,” she says. “Some days, you may feel elated that you’ve made that decision. And other days, you might feel the sadness that’s associated with giving something up, even if it’s something you didn’t like.”
For Nelson, the emotional roller coaster was intense. “When I resigned, I was grinning from ear to ear,” she recalls. “It felt like a ton of weight was lifted off of my shoulders.”
That happiness was short-lived, however, when Nelson had to work in retail to pay the bills as she waited for her dream job to come calling. “I thought, `Here I am, almost 30 years old, and I’m working a job that pays me $9.50 an hour.’ I was afraid that people would look down on me.” Sometimes, Nelson would lie and say she got laid off, because she didn’t want to explain why she quit.
While concerns over finances are legitimate, Khamisa argues that other factors should be given equal weight if your workplace is making you miserable.
“What’s the cost of staying?” she asks. “What’s the cost to you emotionally, physically, and in terms of lost opportunities where you’re not able to express your potential and make the most of your talents?” …